The invitation game: Strategies for negotiating the prospect of meeting in Danish Tinder chats

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This paper analyses Danish Tinder chats that in the very first message after ‘matching’ start off with inviting the co-participant on a date or in other ways refer to the prospect of meeting. A collection of 41 threads is analyzed using analytical principles inspired by Conversation Analysis, outlining methods participants use to indicate the type of interest and purpose they have approaching the other party. This includes, in particular, inferences that can be made based on the type of activity or setting suggested for a future meeting and the framing of the message as ‘serious’ or ‘playful’. The analysis also shows how participants work out and negotiate whether they have a common interest in meeting, in particular, how they exploit and deal with ambiguities used extensively as a mechanism for flirting. The analysis further suggests that practices adhere to gender-stereotypes showing how participants may handle and orient to a norm that women should not agree to meet with a stranger early on in a chat correspondence
TidsskriftInternet Pragmatics
StatusAfsendt - dec. 2022